Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

Woman's Inhumanity to Woman

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“Man’s inhumanity to man”--the phrase is all too familiar. But until Phyllis Chesler's now-classic book, a profound silence prevailed about woman’s inhumanity to woman. Women's aggression may not take the same form as men's, but girls and women are indeed aggressive, often indirectly and mainly toward one another. They judge harshly, hold grudges, gossip, exclude, and disconnect from other women. 
            Like men, women are exposed to the messages of misogyny and sexism that permeate cultures worldwide. Like men, women unconsciously buy into negative images that can trigger abuse and mistreatment of other women. But like other social victims, many do not realize stereotyping affects members within the victimized group as well as those outside the group. They do not realize their behavior reflects society's biases.
            How women view and treat other women matters. Are women oppressed? Yes. Do oppressed people internalize their oppressors' attitudes? Without a doubt. Prejudice must first be acknowledged before it can be resisted or overcome. More than men, women depend upon one another for emotional intimacy and bonding, and exclusionary and sexist behavior enforces female conformity and discourages independence and psychological growth.
            Continuing the pioneering work begun in Women and Madness—Chesler's bestselling book that broke the story on double standards in psychology—Woman's Inhumanity to Woman draws on important studies, revolutionary theories, literature, and hundreds of original interviews. Chesler urges us to look within, to treat other women realistically, ethically, and kindly, and to forge bold and compassionate alliances. This is a necessary next step for women, without which they will never be liberated.

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Reviewed by Cantalopian, 2010-03-09

The book was good. Ish. There were long stretches of blather, incidents and so on. She did this, she said that, etc. But the good part was exposing the cruelty and pettiness of one woman to another, especially in intimate and power relationships. Many of us have been aware of this cruelty, but discussion of it has been suppressed by current social mores.

The title is comfort enough

Reviewed by Jeannine Vegh, 2010-02-28

I've just purchased this book after it was recommended to me on a Linked in group that I belong to. I wrote to Phyllis Chessler via her website and she responded within the hour, I think she is my new heroine. She probably is anyway just based on the fact that she wrote the book. The title alone is one that I can sit with for hours in despair thinking of so many stories of what I have endured in my 47 years.

With work, while at university, in relationships to women I have experienced horrible atrocities in my life that would never have happened with men. Men, you can talk to and they cut it out. With women, it is on-going gossip, frustration, jealousy, and back-stabbing. I look forward to reading this book though the title is such a comfort to me. The fact that I am not crazy and that women really do look at me differently - in my case because I am single and attractive, the title alone is enough to calm my spirit until I finish reading the entire study. Once I finish reading I will come back and edit this. For now, she is my new heroine!

Lyme (Disease) Produces a Lemon

Reviewed by The Postman, 2009-09-03

An astonishing work, mainly in light of the fact that it took an alleged 20 years to write it. More likely it took twenty years to read all the books she has cut and pasted into this so-called work. Indented block quotes take up half the 500 pages of the curiously double-spaced print. One gets the feeling she wanted to make the book as long as possible in the mistaken impression that quantity implies quality. Even the briefest review of this work reveals that this is certainly not the case.

This is a lazy work; there is virtually nothing here in the way of analysis; this book is little more than a survey of other people's research and personal tales of woe, presented in the dullest of pedantic tones, often stating the patently obvious as if it were some sort of revelation. Ostensibly a quasi-treatise on female interpersonal relations, this book is actually an extended bit of "soap Oprah" in which Chesler, in between the extensive quotes, grinds many an axe against all the women she deems to have offended (i.e., disagreed with) or mistreated her, especially her mother. The book could easily have been titled, "My Mother's Inhumanity to Me." Chesler, is of course, always more sinned against than sinning. No doubt being a self-proclaimed feminist icon tends to make you think that way.

Save your money, dear reader. If you want genuine entertaining and insightful observations about the Evil That Women Visit Upon Each Other, read instead Natalie Angier's chapter on the subject in her book, "Woman," or Louann Brizendine's book, "The Female Brain." These two works are superior to Chesler's book in every way.

The Author, The Subject and The Book Rocked My World

Reviewed by Joy Rose, 2009-06-12

I heard Dr. Phyllis Chesler present this material at the 'Association For Research On Mothering and Mamapalooza' Conference in NYC. She spoke to a packed room of feminists of every age, from 19 -80 years old. Each of us were forced to confront this subject with honest, open eyes and this book is a MUST READ for women looking to turn the tables on what has gone before and what must come next. It's a smart read and I hope women everywhere will pick it up and learn these lessons so we can move forward - Finally - Please! Bravo once again Phyllis.

For every feminist's bookshelf: Speaking (difficult) truths

Reviewed by JR, 2009-06-09

As the saying goes, no prophet can preach in his or her own town. Phyllis Chesler has drawn fire from many leading feminists for her forthright criticism of the women's movement in The Death of Feminism and other writings. In this book, Chesler speaks out against a force which undermines women in the drive toward full equality and names it Woman's Inhumanity to Woman. She bases her censure on a weighty overview of scholarly literature and relevant interdisciplinary sources - psychology, history, literature - which is striking in its comprehensive scope. Yet her incisive writing and use of personal anecdotes makes this book gripping and readable throughout. The revised edition provides valuable new perspective on the themes covered in the original, making it a welcome addition.
True to her reputation as provocative, Chesler minces no words and spares no sacred cows. Yet her critique, while often scathing, stems from a place of optimism and from her ultimate confidence in the women's movement to overcome defensiveness and address this important issue, as well as in women and their ability to bridge chasms of mistrust. Her outspokenness challenges us to honest and open discussion. Only once women cease undermining one another and themselves can there be hope: true liberation is not granted by the Male oppressor but comes from within.